...you could speak to that woman you were becoming as you traveled the decades. What do you wish you had known, understood, appreciated, pursued, embraced? How would you express these ideas to the younger women you know and love?
I firmly believe, as Mae West is reputed to have said, "You are never to old to become what you might have been." Here is some advice which I wish I had been given in the various decades of my life. If I had this minimalist road map, I would have enjoyed the journey more and built a stronger foundation for a happier future in each decade. But no matter where you on the road of life, all these tidbits of advice apply.
In my 20's: Survey your talents and skills. Build upon your natural talents and skills. Think career. Think independence.
Do not hitch your wagon to some man's star. Look for a love that elevates and amplifies the power of your brain, your spirit and your body. Do not be so anxious or work so hard to make a relationship take root that you whitewash problems, issues or concerns, especially subtle red flags. One subtle but significant red flag: if a man does not love and respect his mother, watch out. The negativity that he feels toward her will inevitably seep into and contaminate your relationship.
Build your self esteem by giving to others. Reach out and make a difference in someone's life.
Become financially savvy. It's never too early to begin planning for retirement. Open that Roth IRA. Match the maximum amount of funds whenever possible in your 401K or other retirement plan. Finding free money is a gift!
In my 30's: Build family. Make babies if the right partner has entered your life. Make other plans if he/she hasn't so you know your options in case you want to take a different route to bring children into your world.
Strengthen "family" bonds, whether within your biological family and/or your chosen/friend family. Weave rituals and traditions into the fabric of your life. Create ties that bind.
Become active in a volunteer organization that speaks to your heart. Always look for the opportunity to be of help or comfort to another.
In my 40's: Build self-knowledge. Don't take the status quo for granted. Ask yourself hard questions about the direction of your life, where you've been and where you're going. You have reached the halfway point, what does the future look like to you now? Explore new horizons, both literally and figuratively.
In my 50's: Expand your potential. Ask what do I need to do to maximize my happiness and sense of purpose? What grand adventures do I want to take that I haven't had time to pursue? Ask how can I show more love? Show it!
In my 60's and Beyond: Give what ever you can to help others live their best lives as you live yours. Be as generous with your heart, your time and your money as possible. Look closely at your world and your surroundings. Linger, savor, treasure. Always be ready to explore, discover and learn. Live and let live.
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